Learning how to enjoy all foods, whether a salad or an indulgent brownie, without the added guilt, is not easy. Letting others into your newfound journey can also bring about challenges to those skeptical. If you’re just tuning in, we discussed the first step to navigating these conversations in a previous article.
Since we cannot control nor prevent unsolicited criticism that may find its way along our path towards food freedom, we must configure a toolbox that helps us to navigate through while holding tight to our confidence. Below are common scenarios that may arise in conversation. Utilize the sample responses as a guide for building competency around your non-diet food choices.
Unsolicited Food and/or Diet Comments:
- Comment: I’m so bad and ate way too much junk today!
- Response: You’re not bad! Food holds no moral value in regards to being “bad” or “good.” Try focusing your attention on eating in a way that makes you feel energized, nourished, and satisfied.
- Comment: Oh you’re a dancer! I bet you eat so healthfully.
- I choose foods that nourish my body so I feel energized throughout the day. Whether it’s a cookie or a salad, I choose foods that I’m in the mood for… these satisfy me!
- Comment: I’m so bad. I finished an entire brownie sundae. Want to start a juice cleanse with me tomorrow?
- Response: No thanks, I feel best when I include balanced meals and snacks throughout my day.
- Comment: I have no willpower. If I ate that, I wouldn’t be able to stop!
- Response: I’m sure that’s not true. I’m working on tuning into my innate feelings of fullness. It helps to know that I can save leftovers and simply have them tomorrow! Try it!
Unsolicited Body and/or Weight Comments:
- Comment: You’re so [insert body-related comment here]. I’m jealous!
- Response: My body is not up for discussion, thanks for understanding!
- Comment: Looking a little bloated today, aren’t we?
- Response: Let’s take the focus off of my body… this type of talk doesn’t contribute anything to our lives.
- Comment: I heard the artistic director is really strict about body weight. You may have to lose a few pounds.
- Response: First, I’m working on building a better relationship with my body and therefore, I don’t appreciate such comments. Second, my abilities as a dancer shouldn’t be defined by my body weight and/or shape. I’m confident in my technique.
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